Unanswered untill this very moment though, which makes it from a beautiful, happy-sappy Hollywoodexperience into a painful and sadomasochistic torture. I'd rather play a game with Jigsaw, I'll tell you that.
Last time I said that somehow I keep torturing myself this way, by always getting unbelievable crushes on guys that don't notice me, are already taken, or start to like me when I lose all interest. That's right, sadomasochistic, I said it. I think a lot of girls can recognize themselves in it - it's pure and utter self-torture, and still we keep doing it.
When I see my guy (you know, the perfect one, the one with the girlfriend?) I get that cozy, warm feeling in my stomach, with butterflies flying around in it. The feeling you love, at least when you get to walk up to him, kiss him on the lips and ask how his day has been while he throws his arm around you, calls you honey and takes you home. But in this scenario, it's the feeling you hate when the warm feeling starts to burn you and the butterflies become suicidal when all you can manage to do is squeeze out a teary-eyed 'Hi!' and run to class very fast before the butterflies start shooting themselves.
When you're crushing on a guy when it's all good, the world is all Disney channel and apple juice. You walk around with a silly smile all day, skip instead of walk, greet strangers as if they're old friends and embrace the butterflies. When you're crushing on a guy that is taken or doesn't notice you, the world is the house of Satan and everything sunny or happy is depressing. You're likely to get paranoid, too. You check his Facebook status at least three times a day (in this context a day being an hour), try and match yourself to the model he has as his background, watch and memorize all of the movies in his favourites, and most of all, wish every girl he looks at or talks to to HELL. The pretty blonde in geography class giggling about his jokes and the sexy brunette in economy constantly touching his arm and fluttering with her eyelashes. The Asian girl with the big boobs that drops her books 'accidentily' in front of him, the redhead always smiling just too provocatively at him, even the cleaning lady that only speaks Arabian he holds the door open for - if it were up to you they should all DIE.
And you're damn right.
But still, there are those little moments you live for. The moments you think there might be a teeny, tiny possibility that he likes you too. When he gives you a wide, perfect smile that brightens up your day, or simply asks you if your test that afternoon went well or not. To help you with your obsessing and analysing, here are some things you want to take into consideration. If a guy does these following things, there's a chance he's indeed interested in you:
- Eye contact is number one! If you catch a guy staring at you now and then he probably is interested in you. One strong flirting signal is by maintaining eye contact and when his eyes can't seem to get enough of you, he's done.
Look into his eyes a little longer than normally (not too long, unless you want to go all psycho on him) and make it seem like it costs you a lot of trouble to tear your eyes from his, like they're stuck with honey. - He smiles when he listens to you speaking. You're in an animated conversation and you catch him with a big grin on his face. Good sign!
- He either obviously waits for you after class, or he starts walking slowly so you catch up to him and he can start a conversation.
- When you talk to him, he raises his eyebrows a little and tilts his head, giving him a slightly surprised expression. This show clear interest!
- He teases you and can't stop joking around. Teasing is a strong flirting signal! Somehow us girls like to be teased and guys happily take advantage of that. If he starts to friendly poke you it's also a good sign.
Keep this things in mind and try not to kill the butterflies yet! He's just a guy, and we all know they're a little slow. He just hasn't figured out that you're incredibly amazing and his perfect match yet, but don't worry, he'll get there!
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